Yeah, I opened a secret counselling service for the problematic students in my class, they can contact me via message and hopefully I can help them with their problems by giving solutions. Until now on, I have....3 clients that want my advice and suggestions. All of them are boys and their questions are about girls of course.
I've got an interesting question from one of my clients (actually he's my classmates) and maybe this is one of your questions too...
Q: Is it okay for me to have a crush or like a beautiful girl even though my own look is rather plain or can't be consider handsome? Isn't it an impossible dream?
That's a pretty difficult question for me, a newbie in this position. My other 2 clients just need a simple advice for me.
1st perspective:
That's okay, we never know with whom we'll fall in love, and I think it's not fair for them who has a rather plain look (like me, of course!). Love is created for everyone, not just the beautiful or handsome one. And it's not fair to judge people by their own cover, their own look. I'm sure that they have few advantages that the other people don't have.
2nd perspective:
That's maybe quite "unfit" or unsuitable". The couple will not become the best-looking people because the society like to judge couple by their appearance. I, myself, often judge some couples in my school too. They don't fit together, because the boy is not very handsome, they are not matched, because the boy is not as clever as the girl, etc. So, maybe I could say that it's impossible.
Seriously, I don't know how to answer this. But I can't kill his feeling or hope, I can't lie, but I can't tell him the truth. Such a poor boy I think.
I just answer like this, "I think it's okay to have feelings like that (have a crush on a girl). That's normal actually, because we can't choose to fall in love with who. But don't be furious or feel unworthy if the girl that you like turn you down because maybe she thinks you are not good enough for love. You can't force someone to like or to love you.
I know my answer is not very wise and I am not really suitable with this job. But the guys out there need my advice and I can't close my service!
P.S: I won't spoil his identity and I think his question is not a personal one, because it's a frequently asked question I think. So, that's okay to make this public.
And one more..if you have problems, just contact me! I hope I can help you XD
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